There is no logical reason why the subject of gay marriage should be a raging political controversy. Objectively, it's no one else's business if two people who love each other choose to enter into a legally binding, long-term relationship.

But it isn't really about marriage at all. It is about S-E-X. And not just any sex, but specifically gay sex.

Just take a look around and you can easily find much evidence that sex itself is no longer a big deal. The next time you log onto the Internet count the number of penis enlargement, Viagra and other sexually motivated ads that jam your Email inbox. You can bet your Paris Hilton video that advertisers would not be wasting their time spamming you if they did not think sex is profitable.

Since it is not mere sex that motivates anti-gay marriage forces, what else can it be? Could it be that they are motivated by uncertainty about their own sexuality? After all, the angriest voices often state they are leery of opening their minds and hearts to homosexuals out of fear that others may be lured into the "deviant" gay lifestyle.

Of course most Americans are comfortable with their sexuality. They do not fear that one group could persuade them to change their sexual orientation since they know it is a trait that they were born with.

But the frightened minority needs the sexually secure majority to help them oppress gay men and lesbians. Until recently they have been successful in recruiting average Americans to their cause by filling the air with lies and half-truths about the gay "life-style" and homosexual "agenda."

In the last few weeks we have seen thousands of photos of lesbian and gay couples lining up at city hall trying to participate in the American dream. And you know what? They do not look scary at all. In fact, they are businessmen, grandmothers, schoolteachers, young, old and middle aged. In fact, they look a lot like every other American citizen.

But even if they are successful in preventing equal marriage rights, the right-wing opposition will not be content. Really, they would prefer if we would just go completely away. They do not want to deal with folks who make them feel "icky" and uncomfortable.

Politicians are using the "ick" factor to stoke the controversy and to make their own political headway. But homophobia is just another form of bigotry and those who use it as a wedge to get power for themselves will ultimately learn that the majority of American people are fair and equality minded. Those politicians who align themselves with hatred and bigotry will soon find themselves looking for another job.

Like it or not, the same-sex marriage controversy is coming to an end. In Massachusetts, New Mexico and California, the floodgates have opened and despite all the best efforts of the right-wing opposition, there is no turning back.

Lesbian and gay people have always been with us and will continue to exist. We will continue to win equal rights under our nation's laws.

We do not need "liberal, activist judges" to grant equal rights. It just takes elected officials and judges who believe in equal treatment under the law, which is supposed to be all of them.